What do you do when you have so many sisters they would be half of your bridal party? Have a Sister Squad!
From the day you start getting that ring finger itch, where it’s literally the only thing on your mind, you obviously start imagining what the wedding will be like and who will be standing next to you. When you finally get to be the one making cute bridesmaid proposal boxes, it’s like you’re updating your top 5 and then spamming it all over Instagram. Sure, you can change the settings and have a top 10, but keeping the peace with that many b’s is bridal suicide. Not to mention how awkward it will look if your fiancé only has like 3 friends.
So here is my Bridesmaid breakdown: 2 from Highschool, 4 from College, and my Fiancé’s Sister. And here’s my problem- I have 3 sisters of my own….imagine how pissed they were!
I set the expectation from Day 1 that my sisters weren’t going to be in the Bridal Party because I couldn’t have one and not all. As time went on, I felt disappointed that my younger sister, who I had grown so close to when I moved back to my hometown, wasn’t involved in my wedding. Anyone with more than one sister knows that your relationships evolve with where you are in your lives; you’re closest when you’re going through the same experiences. It doesn’t mean I love my other sisters any less. Oh, and the backlash I would get for having just one or two sisters in the Bridal Party was terrifying. It just wasn’t practical to add 3 more Bridesmaids to the party. I knew I had to get creative and come up with a solution to involve ALL of my sisters.
In the South, they have a tradition called a “House Party,” basically your second line bridal party when your group size is maxed out and you still want to honor friends or family close to you. I played around with this idea, but it would have been completely lost on Californians and I feared it wouldn’t feel significant to my sisters. So I’m making up a new tradition, Sister Squad, and it will be a thing.
My sisters are going to wear dresses that have a lace top like my Bridesmaid’s dresses and in the color of the groomsmen’s suits. They will walk behind the flower girl and ring bearer and then look over them as they all sit in the front row. They will be in the photos, give a speech, and attend my bachelorette trip.
In the end, I actually think a Sister Squad is more meaningful. They get an extra special call out that they are the Bride’s sisters…similar to details that call out the maid of honor, like a sparkly belt or larger bouquet. And they get to sit during the ceremony, I wish I could sit during the ceremony.
#SisterSquad